If you have ever wanted to get to know someone, but you didn't know how to start the conversation, within this article you'll learn how to. Meanwhile, starting a conversation is like starting a car engine. If you don't know how to start the engine, you will probably move not an inch otherwise; with a lot of stress.
As common with most guys, when initiating a conversation with an unfamiliar face they say; 'Do I know you? Or, Have we met before?'.”These might sound too common and obvious. Why can't you introduce something fresh and new?
Starting a conversation with strangers can be easy, if you know how to go about it. Here are a few simple and cool conversation starter tips and strategies that I have found useful.
First, to avoid some unnecessary insults, study if he/she is interested to talk to you. To know this, observe their body language. They will show their interest non-verbally by:
1- Looking at you more than once
2- Smiling at you, having their arms and legs uncrossed in an open position
3- Having their legs crossed towards you
These among several other gestures such as; straightening their clothes, combing their hair, caressing certain parts of their bodies, rubbing or an object like a glass or chair, letting you catching them looking at you, and then holding their gaze a few more seconds before turning their eyes away.
- How do I start?
Once you are able to observe and know that he/she is interested to chat with you, and you have decided to start the conversation, the subsequent step is to smile, make eye contact, and speak.
However, it helps to start with positive openers . Negative openers generally discourage others to talk to you and will probably set a depressed tone for the conversation.
A man once approached a woman in a party and started conversation with;
- "Oh my, I can't stand all this rock music!" She replied, "Well then, why are you still here?"
So, first tip:
Start with positive openers. A good conversation starter doesn't have to be wonderfully clever,funny or meaningful however, what is important is the opportunity to make the first contact and get the conversation going thereafter.
If the other person is interested, he or she will help you to find common interest and move the conversation to a more personal level.
Second tip:
Start with ordinary comment.
Basically, you have three areas of topic to choose from. To remember it, think of the acronym, SOY:
1.
Situation
2. Other Person
3. Yourself
Meanwhile, there are just only three ways to start, which this acronym "GAS" also explains:
1. Give an opinion
2. Ask a question
3. State a fact
Your first aim is to get the other person interested to talk to you, so the best approach to start a conversation is usually by asking a question.
- There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a conversation.
Stating an opinion works well too, certainly better than just voicing out a fact. When you talk about facts like, It rains a lot lately,’ or ‘The house is beautiful, the fact doesn't involved the other person, so, the next step is to ask a question, such as; "Have you tasted the cheese? It’s so delicious."
Basically, it helps to switch between asking a question, giving an opinion or stating a fact to start the conversation.
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